Friday, August 28, 2009

How to Improve Your Marriage - wikiHow

How to Improve Your Marriage - wikiHow

By Dr. L. R. Lofton, Psychologist
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Until Next Time: à Donf
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Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Resuscitating Romance – Take A Cruise


The importance of Spontaneity in Relationships Part I:

Romance, romance, romance, romance. Sometimes there is not enough of it in our daily lives with our mate, and then other times we feel so content it can be a bit overwhelming to receive such gifts from our loving partners. In this posting I wanted to share a well known fact about pre-planning for romance. Sure, we all know it takes work to keep relationships new and exciting but, what exactly are we to do, often remains the most pressing question. I happen to watch a video linked here that may prove to be the answer, or may prove helpful as a remainder to get creative and focused on generating ideas to inject some spontaneity in your relationship.

Renew Interest And Creativity In Relationships

Yes it is a bad economy, but that does not have to mean your relationships have to suffer too along with your financial statement. Watch the video below to get a great deal on summer cruises. Cost savings on cruises that are available now can also be purchased for a later date. Why not pre-plan for Valentines Day 2010 and get a great value to boot on a romantic cruise!
By Dr. L. R. Lofton, Psychologist
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Until Next Time: à Donf
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Lofton Consulting offers Professional Training Seminars

Dr. L. R. Lofton, Psychologist, specializes in a Differentiation Based Approach to confronting and addressing life dilemmas to achieve personal success in the relationships we pursue. We get you implementing, not just planning for success and fulfillment.

Find content driven strategies for sustaining relationship success and the life you can both envision and design at Lofton Consulting.

Our services never stop short of ensuring you lead with your personal best!
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Quality Relationships: How to manage great relationships in work and life
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Achieving Business Success
Signature Creativity: Become a Creative Entrepreneurial Thinker
Tools Of The Trade: Achieving business success by developing your skills and staying ahead of the game
Case Studies: Learning resource for business success

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Wednesday, August 05, 2009

Mutual Admiration


To Maintain Passion and Chemistry


SOLUTION: Remain Amenable In Difficult times


By Dr. L. R. Lofton, Psychologist


It is fun to remember, “First dates.” The ones that went well. Feelings of excitement and anticipation fill our emotional memories when we think of early encounters with a love interest.


The Romantic Pursuit is an early phase in a Relationship where each partner willingly exerts enormous amounts of energy, almost effortlessly, to pursue and influence the object of their desire. No obstacle is too great. Partners in an early stage of dating may even go to great lengths to discover what the other may like and provide it just as a gesture to show, and to communicate clearly, that they care.


This is important as people in general are usually attracted to people who welcome them in and are willing to communicate it either verbally or through kind and considerate gestures.


After a person is in an Intimate Quality Relationship, and has made the Decision to Commit, this is where the true work begins. Therefore, after the Romantic Pursuit, and all intimate aspects of your partner have become known, possessing a deep friendship for one another, displaying mutual respect, and admiration for your partner, are important qualities to have in the relationship. Mutual respect in Relationships is necessary to maintain passion and chemistry.


All Relationships Have Conflict



All relationships have conflict and it would be suspect if people never admit to having them.


The question then becomes what will you do to take responsibility when conflicts do surface in the relationship? In times of conflict when arguments titer towards negativity; perhaps even in times where some make a conscious decision to display sadistic behavior in retaliation, can we give ourselves permission to be respectful towards our partner despite disagreements.


Addressing conflicts honestly and resolving them in a mature manner does take skill and above all mutual respect therefore fostering this before conflicts surface, will improve ones ability to remain amenable in difficult times.


Relationship Maintenance Strategies: Mutual Admiration



  • SOLUTION: Remain Amenable In Difficult Times

  • Express verbally what specific quality your partner has that you admire

  • Make a mental list of those qualities you appreciated most about them while dating and share one off the list with them.

  • Pay Compliments

  • Spend Time Together

  • Initiate Intimate Encounters

  • Show Affection

  • Demonstrate Empathy

  • Express Creativity in Relationship to keep it new, interesting, and inviting

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Until Next Time: à Donf


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Lofton Consulting offers Professional Training Seminars




Dr. L. R. Lofton, Psychologist, specializes in a Differentiation Based Approach to confronting and addressing life dilemmas to achieve personal success in the relationships we pursue. We get you implementing, not just planning for success and fulfillment.

Find content driven strategies for sustaining relationship success and the life you can both envision and design at Lofton Consulting.

Our services never stop short of ensuring you lead with your personal best!

ATTEND A SEMINAR:
Relationships
Quality Relationships: How to manage great relationships in work and life
Self & Knowing: How to be the best YOU, you can be

The Psychology of Business Development
Achieving Business Success
Signature Creativity: Become a Creative Entrepreneurial Thinker
Tools Of The Trade: Achieving business success by developing your skills and staying ahead of the game
Case Studies: Learning resource for business success

To Learn More Visit Lofton Consulting